Boundaries are there for our protection, they really are...
From an early age we learn about boundaries; boundaries on crossing the street, boundaries on playing with others, boundaries on how we can and cannot talk to people, etc. When we get older that list of boundaries grows even longer and with much greater importance. When you are little you get corrected for crossing boundaries, your parents take responsibility for you and in turn what you've done, but when you get older it doesn't work like that! When boundaries get crossed, YOU have to face the responsibility and consequences from your decision.
When I went from high school to college my world turned upside down; I had grown up in a safe place in the suburbs of Atlanta, with a great friend group, and parents that were diligent in keeping me "on track" and growing in my walk with Jesus. While things were never perfect, I had a great foundation to stand on from my years under good teaching, mentors, and peers who held me accountable. College on the other hand offered none of those securities, at least not at first; I felt as though I was starting over, and while I never struggled with temptation of alcohol and drugs, there were plenty of other boundaries that I had to set for myself and through my position before God and others.
One of the biggest boundaries that we as women face are our boundaries with men, and that starts with how we talk and how we dress. Flirting incessantly, and wearing revealing clothing will not gain attention from the godly men out there seeking a women clothed in dignity and integrity. We fall prey to the desires of the flesh, but God desires the obedience from the boundaries He has set.
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body."
- 1 Corinthians 6:18
I have fallen prey to crossing the boundary so many times, from the skirt that was too short, to the times I was called a "tease", and there are ALWAYS consequences: hurt, pain, loneliness, broken relationships, new lies from Satan about your worth and value.
The boundaries are worth it. The obedience is worth it.
But boundaries with men aren't the only ones we face, friendship boundaries with men and women alike, guarding against gossip, the way we conduct business, it all matters. As believers we need to look different!
We are called to be in this world, but not of it:
"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." Romans 12:2
That means boundaries, that means changed perspective and heart posture, that means life where Jesus is the focus and known the author of your story.
The boundaries are there for our protection, because The Author of our story wrote it...